Someone who you love

I suppose I am more comfortable when I take a step back and pretend that I am not me, just sit back and tell my tale so I don't have to take any responsiblity of my actions, or my inactions toward my relationship.

I take the advantage of meeting my friend everyday in hope of meeting her brother. However, I don't know whether I am making a fool of myself or succeeding. If I am getting to the person who I want to get to, then his lack of response is almost laughable. What happened to my natural instinct?

Before I lose my cool, or my pride, for that matters the most, I will re-focus. Maybe I am just too hung up on him and forget what I really want in a guy now.

What do I want in a guy? I suppose that depends when and where you ask me. I would love the guy to be able to take care of himself. I am talking in a broad sense of "taking care"; for example, he will have to be able to cook for himself, clean for himself, and drive for himself. He has to be self-sustainable. Modern men, apart from those who are married or attached, are mostly self-sustainable at this day and age. They can cook simple meals. They can drive their car, no matter large or small, from point A to point B without too much trouble. They can vacuum their own room, no matter how reluctant they are about carrying out this choir. They can wash their own clothes because you only have to push two buttons on the washing machine. They can do almost everything their girlfriends or wives do, but they just don't want to do them! Haha. I don't mind doing house choirs for my boyfrien, but I prefer one who did their own choirs before we get into any kind of serious relationship.

I read that if you don't cook or don't clean for your boyfriend, then you won't be able to find one. On a light note, I have a friend whose boyfriend does all these things better than her. She doesn't know how to cook, so this nice guy cook for her most of the time. I don't see any problem in their relationship because someone has got to cook, right? Otherwise they will just starve and that's no good.

The second quality has to be that he is reliable, trustworthy, and generally good. Being good is never easy. Reliable guys are often doormats, but I don't like doormats. He has to be strong, too. You can be reliable and strong at the same time. He has to stand up for what he believes in. I think that's very important in a guy. He has to be brave enough to admit his mistakes, and also not tell lies. I hate guys who tell lies. They are the worst kind. I think caring, understanding, loyal, and tender are a few of good qualities that are hard to find in guys. However, there are guys out there who fit perfectly well and possess good qualities listed above. And they are so much more.

The third quality, I am sorry to say, is that they have to be presentable. No more needed to be said, apply your imagination of a nice looking guy who dresses well. Walking down the street or climbing a mountain with him makes your life so good that you never want to leave him. Good, ask him out or let him ask you out.

The fourth quality is that he has to have something extra to offer. A talent in music. A nice singing voice. A paintbrush of any kind that create beautiful artwork such as houses or paintings. An ability to fix anything. A pair of fast legs that run like the jaguar. Hands that plant flowers that bloom every year. Dancing steps that shines on the dance floor. Any one of the above or a combination of several is desirable.

The fifth quality is that he is a family man. Family is important and you can't avoid having one, now or ever. Good with his family member when they come to visit is a sign for "familiness". Having a soft spot for nephews and nieces is another sign of love of family. Other signs include good with animals and helping old people or weak.

Before feeling like I am describing Spiderman and get laughed by guys, I want to ask you a question: Don't you have some of the qualities that I mentioned that you have never discovered? You are who you are, I know, but how can you say that you don't like dog and cats? How can you say that you don't know how to cook? How can you say that you don't know how to drive? How can you resist to sing in the shower when it comes to showing off your lovely voice? Well...you qualify as a nice guy!